Fears, Failures, Fruition (Part 3)

The new year is fast approaching - which means reflection for most of us. In the previous post I touched on possible reasons you might be failing to achieve your goals. Check it out here.

In this post, the third and final of the series, I will address steps to take to help you when setting your goals. Here they are:

  • Welcome failure. Don’t allow failure to discourage you, but use it as a sign that something needs to change. Understand why you failed, and learn from your mistakes.

  • Ask yourself questions. Am I putting my all into this? Am I being realistic with what I can handle? Am I being realistic with how long it will take to achieve this? Am I procrastinating? Am I doing this for me or someone else?

  • Work hard, but work smart. If you go to the gym three times a week because you’re trying to lose weight, but you still keep eating McDonald’s every day for lunch, it would take you 2 years to achieve a goal you could’ve achieved in 6 months, because you’re not working smart. You’re working hard - going to the gym and burning all those calories - but not working smart - putting those calories back on with the Big Mac and McFlurry.

  • Take a break. Go on holiday, take a weekend off studying, have a cheat day to indulge in not-so-healthy food. Relax your mind, focus on other things and come back recharged, and with a fresh perspective.

  • Go back to the foundation. Why did you want to achieve this goal in the first place? Do you really want to do this? Is this really the path in life you want to take? Or are you doing this because everyone else is? Are you trying to start your own fashion brand because it looks cool and everyone has one? Do you want to lose weight because you want to look good in a bikini like your best friend? Do you want to get a First Class just to prove people wrong? Success is hard enough when you’re pursuing something you love. When you’re doing it for someone else? A nightmare. If the foundation isn’t solid, if your reason for your goal isn’t strong enough, when difficulties arise, you’d run. 

  • Celebrate the small victories. You may not see changes to your weight just yet, but you already feel much better and healthier. Celebrate the fact that you were able to say no to the doughnut your colleague offered you. Celebrate the fact that you now take the stairs instead of the elevator. Celebrate yourself.

  • Have accountability. Have people around you to keep you in check and to be honest with you about your progress. People to motivate you and push you to keep going.

I hope you enjoyed this three part series on goal setting. Comment below any other tips you have that might help! Be sure to check out my previous post here and follow me on Instagram. Till next time!

Peace, love and blessings,